Im Davi...and Im a shy person. XD very introverted,I shall say.
Uhm...where to start... I've always been a shy ,reclusive person. I have problems speaking up and talking to people....I think that its a dreadful chore to even consider going up to a person and striking up a conversation. Like at a cafe or bar or whatever.
I'm naturally a quiet person. I have always had self esteem issues also;buuuut,thats another topic. XD Its related though.

I have real problems with crowds and a place with many people....hence,its so hard for me to go dating or whatever.
That sort of situation makes me very nervous. Im not too bad with a few people.

Also,...strangers make me nervous.

I've been able to be better about meeting people in the last year or two,and Im not sure why. Its still a problem...just not a major breakdown situation. =0

Nice to be here..... If someone would like to chat about things,please feel free to msg me.. thanks.
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  • Daniel
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    Re: HI All..........Wow....I didnt know there was a tribe for this topic...

    Sun, May 18, 2008 - 6:37 PM
    Hi, I'm Daniel, and I'm a shy person.

    <<Murmurs of "Hi, Daniel" and "Welcome" from the surrounding circle>>

    Just kidding :P Hiya Davi. It's nice to hear from someone else in a situation similar to mine. I've always been shy, but it's gotten much worse over the past few years (my last years in high school - I'm graduating in a couple of months). I do have friends, but although we do have things in common, often I feel I can't fully be myself around them, and it's hard to meet other people. Some days, it feels like I just forgot how to socialize correctly.

    Still, I (sometimes) have hope that once I get to college, and can get away a little from my old social circles, I'll be able to "start fresh" and "fix" myself. Wish me luck! :)
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    • Phil
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      Re: HI All..........Wow....I didnt know there was a tribe for this topic...

      Wed, May 21, 2008 - 8:50 AM
      Hi, all.

      Welcome, Davi and Daniel.

      As an example of my situation, I have been "observing" this tribe for about a year now without joining or commenting, because, well... I was too damn shy! :)

      Daniel, I was in your situation in high school as well, and thought that things would be different when I got away from all of the kids that knew me as this shy, kinda awkward guy. But, of course, that didn't happen. I still did not have the confidence to put myself out there in these new social circles. In fact, it was almost worse because I had to make friends with strangers all over again, and that was always very difficult for me.

      There is hope, however, and I don't want to turn this into a pharmaceutical advertisement, but I have found some relief with Paxil. After fighting for 30 years with my inability to be assertive or speak up in groups of people, I decided to try a chemical solution. It is NOT a miracle drug, but I do feel more relaxed in groups of people, and it has helped me to realize that when I speak up and offer an opinion people don't think I am weird (well, at least not for that anyhow). I still think I would benefit from some professional help, and one of these days I will seek that out, but I am feeling better about things.

      ~ Phil

      P.S.

      If anyone could tell me how to fix my icon ... that would be great. I keep trying to crop it, but it keeps looking squished :)
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  • amanda
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    Re: HI All..........Wow....I didnt know there was a tribe for this topic...

    Mon, May 19, 2008 - 1:23 PM
    Hi,its nice that you found this group.I to have problems with speaking up and I dread big crowds and going places that I know are going to be full of people.Self-esteem issues is abig part to my problem too.All i can say is look for the strength in yourself to deal with hard times.I tell myself that I am worth knowing and My words are just as important as anyone elses.It gets me threw sometimes.And everything is easier said then done.I know.Good luck and don't be a stranger ...
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