I'm Poje.......it's just down hill from there....It's always been tough for me to make new friends, keep a conversation going with people or to join into an already going conversation.
Good example is this last weekend i was at a psytrance party and spinning my staff on the dance floor and this girl comes up to me and starts talking....we talk for maybe 5 minutes before i run out of stuff to say and then there was us standing there not talking for another couple minutes (AWKWARD) before she walks away and nothign else is said between us...
Too bad life isn't the internet.
Good example is this last weekend i was at a psytrance party and spinning my staff on the dance floor and this girl comes up to me and starts talking....we talk for maybe 5 minutes before i run out of stuff to say and then there was us standing there not talking for another couple minutes (AWKWARD) before she walks away and nothign else is said between us...
Too bad life isn't the internet.
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Tue, February 12, 2008 - 1:18 PMi know it's hard, but honesty seems to work out ok for me.
somthing along the lines of "wow, i'm realy enjoying talking to you, and i want to keep the convorsation going, but my brain just froze up." big ingratiating smile. maybe even throw in somthing flatering like "that always hapens when i try to talk to a beutiful woman"
thats just what i would say, becals in my case that would be the truthe, but in the end you just gota say whatevers true for you.
i meen it's worth a try anyways, if she reacts understandingly then maybe she's somone who you could make a real conection with in the long run, if she looks at you like you're crazy then you probly wern't gona hit it off with her in the long run anyways.
i know it's one of those things that seens stupid, and is a lot easyer and cleener in theory than in practice, but hay, if the convorsation was already gona end then you've got nothing else to loose but pride, and i don't know about you but i already take a masive hit to my pride any time i freeze up and loose a convorsation becals of it.
maybe she's feeling the same, and in that case wouldn't it be nice if she told you she was feeling that too.
honesty dosn't always work out, but unlike a lot of other things, when honest DOSE work out it always makes up for the times that it didn't work out.
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Wed, February 13, 2008 - 7:04 AMHonesty does seem to work out well, although it's not easy. I remember being dragged out to a nightclub with a friend a while back and meeting a pretty girl and trying to talk to her. I was trying like crazy to be witty, smart, funny, cool, etc. After a few minutes she actually told me that she thought I was a pompous a$$. Not the sort of reaction I was hoping for. So I just sighed and told her that I was probably coming across that way because I was trying very hard to impress her. She laughed and said that she liked pompous a$$es and after that it was a lot easier to talk to her. -
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Wed, February 13, 2008 - 8:35 AMHa, that's something i never understood is why most women like the ass holes out there... -
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Fri, February 15, 2008 - 5:45 AMSometimes we're comforable in the same patterns and routines... -
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Fri, February 15, 2008 - 11:01 PMalot of the time wemewn (just like men) are afraid of a comitment, or of being the "bad guy" in a bad relationship so they go for horible peaple who the don't need to be afraid of and who they can treat however they want becals they are just to horible peaple being horible rather than one good person being victimised by an asshole. witch brings up one of the other reasons why peaple are more likly to go for jerks , self esteem, (just like men) wemen have a subconchis estimation of what they are worth, if you don't like your self than it will seem rong to you to go for the good or kind person. and of corse ther is also the problem of peaple bein atracted to power (basic animal instinct) and in our culture being a jerk can often be mistaken for being strong and kindness or reserved calm , or emotional opennes can be mistaken for a weekness.
thats all fine by me, i am usualy atracted to the kind of peaple who are aware of those tenencys in us that drive us to go for jerks and mistake kindness for weekness, so all i have to do to atract the type of peaple i want to spend time with and repel the type i lothe is to be a nice humble guy as much as i posibly can. :D -
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Sun, February 17, 2008 - 1:09 PMI think most women like to be with guys where they have to 'expect the unexpected'. Than to go for the guy who they just 'expect'. Also, women like the challenge of changing a bad boy into a faithful, nice/good guy. I guess to brag to their girlfriends like,' hey, this bad boy wants to be with me...only me (I think)!'.
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Tue, February 26, 2008 - 12:12 PMOh my god, I know exactly what you mean. -
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Wed, February 27, 2008 - 5:33 AM"Every minute, of every day, we do exactly what we want to do." C.J. Henderson. -
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Wed, February 27, 2008 - 5:34 AM"You can have anything you want in life...the second you don't want it anymore." C.J. Henderson.
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