JustAnotherGirl,

You've introduced yourself, you've given us someone to think about, allow us to fill in the blanks. It's often about us projecting ourselves onto the impression of you that we get. Give a little and you may just get a lot. We all like to help other people as if to ignore our own shyness.

We want to know why you think you are shy talking about yourself? Are there things about you that you think are different than us? And, if so, are your differences great? If you can accept yourself, actually live with yourself, why would you think that we couldn't have the same opinion about you? Who would you rather be?

I sense that you are worried about what we might think about you in terms of the words you use to explain yourself, but as far as I can see, you write well, clearly. You've explained the problem, a fear of being conceived of as not knowing what you are talking about. Who could explain yourself better than you? What do you know well? What do you love to do? What do you do passionately? What matters to you? How do you see your purpose in this world?

Nice to have you here.

Hi justanothergirl,

I'm really glad you had the courage to write. =)

I have the same problem as you. I would be very afraid to say/write anything and I would sit there reading the topics or listening to other people. I still do it a lot now but I try to block it out. As soon as I start thinking about it I try to drown it out. The more I think about it the worse it gets and the less likely I will do it. The trouble is that I'm so anxious, that to drown it out, I've made my observations worse. I can't focus that much on things or my anxieties will get the better of me. Hopefully, it will balance out.

I'm worried that people will think I'm odd, or not like me, or be confused at what I'm saying/writing. Or worse, ignore me. I feel like I can't explain how I feel properly or eloquently. On the other hand... You write very well. I don't think you're a crazy person. We're all here for the same reason. =) And I don't think you've made a fool of yourself.

Mario has made a lot of good points in his post. Also, a lot of people are worrying, or wondering, about how to reply to make a judgement about you. Usually, other peoples' judgements are based on their own insecurities, and nothing to do with you.

I think you should be proud of yourself for overcoming your fear and posting a topic. =)

Lia

A little belated (I've been out of town the past couple of weeks), but greetings and welcome, justanothergirl! Pleased to meet you, and I look forward to getting to know you better in the future :)